“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”—Philippians 4:6-7
“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”— Jeremiah 17:7-8 NIV
you always tweet and post the most superficial/nonsensical things so i figured you were just a good lookin guy with not much else going on but you have a huge heart and you express yourself so well. it really is a mystery how a girl can let you go. do you think that maybe the girl couldnt meet your expectations? i think i would be intimidated to date you...
It’s true I do most the most nonsensical things on my social media pages lol but i love it.
It’s funny that you thought that of me just from social media, and frankly it’s not the first time I’ve heard it. I think a majority of people who meet me and speak to me will at some point mention that they thought I was an asshole or just a plain idiot… That’s an issue I’m seeing with people in general… social media isn’t the world you know. Social media isn’t exactly my life story… I’ve dated girls who often got upset that I wouldn’t blast them on my social media platforms. I like to keep certain things, like my relationship, private because so much of me is out there already.
My relationships don’t work for many reasons, none of which has anything to do with who you think I am from reading my twitter/blog/instagram. Relationships are tricky, especially in a big city where people have their own thing(s) going on.
Expectations are tricky. If I recall, it’s not that the girl couldn’t meet my expectations but rather the other way around. In my personal opinion, I think girls fall really hard for like 10% of who I am. Which is most likely the stuff you’ve seen me write about the last few days; my thoughts on love, relationships, intimacy etc. They like that about me. I think they like that a guy isn’t afraid to express himself, and express himself the way he wants, not from reciting quotes from a movie or whatever. Then they are fixated on that aspect of me. They don’t necessarily like that I don’t always dress so well. That I don’t always look presentable. That I do have my flaws. That I tend to flake on people. That I go a bit overboard with things. That I get emotional. That I sometimes forget things. That I don’t always listen. They are infatuated with the 10% emotional, loving, open, Alex Kang. They ignore the other 90% and I’m left there trying to be that 10% of me, 100% of the time, which is not only impossible, but impractical. I appreciate the kind words but you don’t know me enough to say anything about the possibility of being in a relationship with me lol but still awesome to hear :)
Also, I think I would be intimidated to date YOU. You’ve clearly been following me for a little bit. Enough to know the patterns of my tweets and posts on here. It’s more or less intimidating to know that someone out there knows a lot about me, and thinks that they know me. That being said, if we were to ever meet, I’d feel really pressured to show you who I really am, which would just make me feel like I’m in a game show and trying to win something.
Anyway, this is weird. But thanks for taking the time to message me. Good stuff.
I've always thought if the kiss was bad, it just means there was no spark, no chemistry, no physical compatibility. Isn't the kiss telling of something? I'm always flustered when to kiss someone. I'm always thinking too much about technique, etc. What's your thinking process??
im sure there are people like that. that kiss someone for the first time and it’s not exactly as they want it so they move on. but there are also ppl who go to shakeshack and order a hotdog and claim it’s the worst burger spot ever. there are also ppl who go to mcdonalds and eats a big mac for a year and doesnt gain any weight and claim its the healthiest food ever.
everyone’s different. if u find someone who’s that into the first kiss, u will fail everytime. u will never meet the imaginary expectations of someone’s first kiss. dont waste your time with someone who has such fantasies.
my thinking process?
even if you have two puzzle pieces that fit together, you still need to look at it carefully and spin it around, or turn it around to make it fit. you cant just pick up two pieces and throw it into eachother and expect it to fit. you need to observe and makes some changes at times to make it work. such is life. dont think about it so much
“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.”—Matthew 6:34 (MSG)
I've been with a guy for a couple months now. We go to different colleges, but he's near my hometown so I've been visiting a bit more recently. We waited for a bit before we had sex, we talk everyday, and we always have fun together. I feel like it's getting to the point of me either staying in to see what happens or cutting out early because he's not too great at showing he likes me. I feel like at this point I might be too "convenient" for him. He's never been serious with someone so it (...)
Just makes me think he doesn’t know how to really deal with emotions and show to a girl how he feels or how to be with someone. I notice little signs that he does like me, but could I be misreading them as him just being nice? I know I’m the only one hes talking to and he has admitted to liking me. Am I over reacting? I know he's not big on PDA and when we're together its great. He's admitted to liking me but we're both on the same page about not knowing how to deal with significant others.
everyone shows love differently. im not all that big on PDA either and especially on my social media pages.
not everyone is gonna be that guy you see in movies/dramas. i think love is something that grows. your relationship with your significant other will never be the same as my relationship with my significant other and that’s totally okay. i think the wrong thing to do is compare your love to others. if you are comfortable with him and you believe him when he tells you he likes you, then see where it goes. if what you need is constant PDA and a constant reminder that he likes you and he doesnt provide that, then maybe he’s not the one for you. we all have needs, it’s unfair for you to throw such expectations onto him and make him change so drastically. it’s rarely ever the case that two people will just fall madly in love with eachother right away. i see love like a plant. you start with the seed and you make sure you plant it well. not too deep, not too shallow and you give it some time and with patience it’ll grow into something. we live in such a demanding and quick society. if there’s one thing to be patience with, its your relationship with people. dont go looking for a quick fix. dont find a gf/bf just to quickly help you get over a slump in your life. don’t cheat on someone because they don’t give you what you want right away. dont get distracted by society’s constant distractions vying for your attention. talk it out with him and if you truly care about this and see a future, water that seed and see how it flourishes. im no love expert. ive never really even had any good relationships. i just know that in a world where things come and go so easily and so quickly, im committed to investing my life/heart into someone and i wouldnt want to just half-ass it.
so ive been dating this girl for almost a year now and im in love with her but i fucked up and cheated on her one time. and it was so stupid and there was no reason for it but im so devestated with what i did. i need her back. how do i make things right again? how do we start over? wtf do i do??
LOL good for you.
first of all; grow the f up. how old are you anyway? dont be going around saying youre “in love” when you made the conscious decision to cheat on your gf and then get all butt hurt because you realize AFTER the fact, that you need/want her. you didnt love her u fool. you liked the idea of having a gf. you probably liked the idea of having someone that cared about you and who needed you. but if you loved this girl, the thought of being with someone else should have, and would have NEVER even crossed your mind.
my advice to you; leave her alone. seriously man. just leave her alone. youve done enough to her. if u really cared you’d give her time to heal and let her build herself back up. everyone deserves to be happy. you decided to cheat on her so you can be happy with someone else for a minute. let her be happy too. leave her alone.
You into the whole raw denim movement? If so, what are your favorite brands? If not, what brands of jeans do you wear?
I own one pair of raw denim and it’s from Rogue Territory.
I used to wear a regular pair of Levi’s 501 Originals pretty heavily. Like 4-5 times a day since I was a sophomore in high school. Went through probably thousands of washes as I washed them every week. The thing was broken in to absolute perfection and faded to the most unique, and perfect shade.
This is when I was completely oblivious to the denim game and when I blew out the knee I went to on Levis.com and ordered a pair in the same size and color (by name) and was disappointed by the color. I actually brought in my pair of jeans to the Levis store in Herald Square and they educated me some about the whole denim game and how these fades were impossible to get unless I actually lived in them.
Okay I went off tangent a bit. So I wear the Roge Territories. They fit me well. Hugs my ass well and fits nicely down the thighs and I had them tapered a bit as well. It’s 14.5oz so it’s pretty thick and stiff still. Got them back in October.
I own three jeans; Rogue Territory 14.5oz Stantons, Levi’s 501 Originals and a pair of black skinny jeans from Uniqlo.
Uniqlo denim is nice but stretches out A LOT. Started off skinny and now it’s just more slim fit but the waist increased by at least 2 sizes. This reminds me to shrink them soon so I don’t look like a fool when wearing them.
Denim game can be stressful but I would check out Levi’s. Find a fit that works well with your body type and get it tailored to your needs.
What websites do you check out to browse watches? I'm in the market for a clean white-faced one for warmer months. P.S. Glad that your journey with God is going. Keep it up.
I usually just come across watches on Tumblr to be honest. I just see pictures of watches that give me inspiration for a certain look. For a white faced watch I usually like to keep it clean. Like real clean so I wear my Timex EasyReader:
It’s super cheap and nothing really to it. I want it to be clean, white and tell me the time. I also like that I can swap out the straps really easily and quick. I have several different straps for this watch and it really changes the look of the watch quite a bit. If you go through my Timex Tags you will see a bunch of different straps.
If you’re in the market for a super clean watch and want to invest in a reputable timepiece, I recommend LACO.
Thank you for the kind words. My journey is taking me to amazing places and allowing me to build great relationships with some amazing people.
But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
“8 Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. 9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”—2 Corinthians 12:8-10
your openness about your religion and relationship with God is so commendable! Most people our age are afraid to seem uncool or 'lame' by talking about it publicly, so I think your ability to is amazing:)
ppl 2 cool 4 sk0ol… i mean church.
it wasnt easy at first but its not optional to share my faith. and as i currently walk through the darkest valley of my life i am doing really well. im not gonna keep this a secret. i wanna tell everyone about it. im that nice ;)
embrace it. college will be a bit of a shock. you worked hard in highschool to maintain a good GPA. you worked hard on your ACT/SAT to secure that college education. it’s okay to treat yourself to a little freedom now before the shock of college life. enjoy yourself. life is meant to be lived, not “curing” certain feelings. live that feeling.
My day… another God filled day. Just met up with a friend from highschool who told me he’s been praying for me to find God and seeing my posts and status updates on social media has given him such a good feeling. To know that his prayers were answered. And in return I felt good to know that I have some really awesome friends out there that are praying for me and thinking about me.
Besides alla that emotional stuff. My day was pretty uneventful. Work. Homework. Music. Chill. Tumblr.
Wow, what a surprise. I was expecting people to be trolls about it but a simple “how are you” is really awesome. I’m doing well! A lot better than I thought I would be doing… but I’m hangin in there. Been surrounding myself with good people. Good food. Good vibes in general and working on myself.
School is good too. It’s somewhat fun now because I’m not so worried about it as much. I was so Asian and focused so much on my GPA and stressed about stupid things. I’m enjoying school now, actually interacting with my classmates and just enjoying life in general. There’s so much more to be joyful about that I can’t really complain about much right now :)